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Re: The ins and outs of relationships...what does it all mean>?
Sounds to me like she's having confliction problems with growing up. She's opening up to you, in a serious relationship situation, but then spends all of her time hanging out with friends and getting drunk.
You don't have the problem and I don't even think you're in the friend zone. Sounds like the chick solely has commitment issues.
OR
She really does like you, and is trying not to come on too strong. Never underestimate that with women. There's plenty of girls that believe to make a successful relationship work you never come on too strong.
That could be the 2-3 days thing she does, which ironically, alot of relationship psychologists recommend.
Re: The ins and outs of relationships...what does it all mean>?
if it was me and i was fallen for this chick i'd have an open hearted discussion laying it all out...maybe she doesnt know you wanna take it to the next level
it''ll be like goin all-in at the poker table table though you'll be laying it all out and be waiting to see what her hand holds
Re: The ins and outs of relationships...what does it all mean>?
I don't know if there is anything that particularly makes a relationship work. There are certainly things that make sure a relationship doesn't work - with many of those things being what Neemo and other people listed.
Whether a relationship works really comes down to where the two individuals are at in their lives and their headspace. If the relatationship is good AND both parties are ready for the long term and the next step, then I think it works. If one party for whatever reason isn't in that headspace yet it ultimately will never work.
I finally got married at age 34 approx 3 months ago. I just felt ready for it, I couldn't really put my finger on one thing in particular but for me it was time. Fortunately I was with a girl that was also of a similar mind. I had just had enough of going out picking up girls and living like a selfish Bachelor. There's nothing wrong with that as I had done it for a long time and had a lot of fun, but I was ready for other things eg. kids and other stability and security that comes from making a life with someone.
I had been in relationships with other girls in the past that wanted that whole fairytale but I wasn't ready so it never happened and the relationships just sort of ran its course. Similarly, there was one or two girls that I thought longer terms plans with, but for whatever reason they weren't on that wavelength so it also never happened.
Mitchejw I don't think it gets easier as you get older but perhaps you get more clarity about what you want out of a relatinonship. Consequently you become a bit more clinical and analytical about how things are going. If you are happy with just taking things how it comes etc then you may not mind the games she is playing. But if you are at a point where you would like to find a relationship that could be a long lasting one you will find yourself being less tolerant to being jerked around like you are.
