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Re: The ins and outs of relationships...what does it all mean>?
I recently began a new relationship (although a part of me told me never to do that again...lol) and I was wondering the status of people on this board as it relates to your relationships status, and why you made the decision that you did (whether or not to be in one).
If you are in a relationship, what makes it work? Can you tell anything about the first few months of the relationship?
Any comments regarding or related to the above questions would be greatly appreciated.
Oh...and I've been gone for awhile...glad to see nothing in the world of GN'R has changed...phsaa
Re: The ins and outs of relationships...what does it all mean>?
Right I'll share my story.
Became good friends with this girl I've known for years but only recently a few months back became friends with. To be honest I kind of like her in a "like like" way, not sure if she does. We hang out a lot like minimum two days a week we see each other but it's usually more and we probably hang out together more than we do with any of our other friends. Not sure if she likes me, if she does lucky me if not oh well life goes on. Not that interesting sorry.
Re: The ins and outs of relationships...what does it all mean>?
ok what makes my relationship work
-if something pisses one of us off we air it out immediately instead of letting it brew
-all cash is "our" cash....money is the cause of the vast majority of breakups
-the significant other comes first...if the buddies want to do something and the missus wants to do something....unless it has been planned forever or cost alot of money the missus wins
-do your fair share, dont make your woman do all the laundry, dishes, cleaning etc etc, take turns or soemthing
-take each other as they are...dont search for faults...everyone has strenghts and weakenesses and bad habits...learn to live with it or move on
just use common sense and courtesy really
Re: The ins and outs of relationships...what does it all mean>?
ok what makes my relationship work
-if something pisses one of us off we air it out immediately instead of letting it brew
-all cash is "our" cash....money is the cause of the vast majority of breakups
-the significant other comes first...if the buddies want to do something and the missus wants to do something....unless it has been planned forever or cost alot of money the missus wins
-do your fair share, dont make your woman do all the laundry, dishes, cleaning etc etc, take turns or soemthing
-take each other as they are...dont search for faults...everyone has strenghts and weakenesses and bad habits...learn to live with it or move onjust use common sense and courtesy really
Good guidelines, but it takes more than that. I recently broke up with my gf of 5 years. It was the relationship, the one that was supposed to be the last, you know? We bought a house together, were planning on having kids, the works. We did all the things in Neemo's list and more. You practically lived our lives together (like I believe you should), you rarely saw one without the other and it didn't even take an effort on either's side.
If you would've told me about a year ago we'd end up breaking up I would've called you a friggin' nut. But for some reason, and I'm not quite sure what, we just kinda... I dunno, we just grew bored of each other. One day I just woke up thinking "is this it?". Couldn't say anything was really wrong about her, nothing irritating me or anything, just a general feeling of unease that all of the sudden fell over me. Turns out she was feeling the same way and we did try coming up with stuff we could work on for about a month or 10, but to no avail. In the end it was better that we let our past go and moved on.
This break-up was the easiest one I've ever had, which is really scary when you consider what we used to have.
So I guess what I'm trying to say is that there is no magic formula. If you use Neemo's guidelines it should get you a long way, but in the end what happens happens and all you can do is enjoy the ride and do your best.
